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Kaitlynn Rivera's avatar

It's this part for me

"if you’re going to make hypotheticals that make you dread your past, why not make up hypotheticals that make you thankful it didn’t work out?"

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krissy's avatar

yes, reframing thought patterns can be so helpful! 😊

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Dounia’s Thoughts's avatar

Love love this, thank you for the free therapy, a part of me healed just by reading your piece. Never stop writing!!

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krissy's avatar

wow, I love that this piece brought you a sense of healing. there really is no higher compliment for me than that 🥹 thank you for taking the time to read!

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Enigmatic's avatar

Your mention of hypothetical makes me consider modal illusions.

The idea of perfection is just that: and idea. For all we know, in some sense things are perfect as they are, just unpreferable to us.

Very thoughtful.

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krissy's avatar

Exactly! I love your insight, thank you 😊

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Ben Schmitt's avatar

lol I love the idea of: if I’m drowning in past hypotheticals, mine as well add hypothetical future ones to be grateful for while I’m at it! What a great way to short circuit that thought pattern!

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krissy's avatar

Yes! Life is sooo short, so why not assume everything happens for the greater good??

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Mysh's avatar

Thank you for big sistering me 💙

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All For What?'s avatar

Loved this !! Recently wrote somehitng personal would love you guys to read and may help someone else.

https://open.substack.com/pub/afwl12177427/p/consumed-by-love-shattered-by-lies?r=5fh6yr&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=post_stats

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krissy's avatar

thank you so much for reading 🥹 excited to read your work

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Delaney Langdon's avatar

reframing hypotheticals...I lovee this. I write about similar topics (a diary for aspiring ex-ruminators) & would love to connect <3

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krissy's avatar

THANK YOU for reading, Delaney ♥️ Going to spend some intentional time today catching up on posts and yours in on my list EEK so excited!

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Delaney Langdon's avatar

Of course!!! so happy to connect ☺️

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little writes ♡'s avatar

I’m in awe. I feel so incredibly seen from this piece. Thank you. This was so timely. I also have been convicted of unforgiveness of deep betrayal. I’ve fell physically ill from it multiple times & each time it got worse. I’m doing my best to forgive, everyday. It’s a choice. The “let’s move on” part is hard. I will read this over and over again.

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krissy's avatar

I am right there with you. Betrayal is one of the hardest emotions to face. You are not wrong to struggle with forgiving the offense because of it. I am rooting for your healing ❤️

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little writes ♡'s avatar

thank you so much 🥺

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Amanda Marie's avatar

This was absolutely beautiful. Thank you for this. I hope this piece reaches the masses because it’s a message I feel like so many people need to hear. Please never stop writing!

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krissy's avatar

This is such a heartfelt compliment 😭❤️ Thank you Amanda, thank you!!!

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Amanda Marie's avatar

Of course! I meant it from the bottom of my heart! ❤️

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EJ's avatar

Stunning!!

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krissy's avatar

Thank you my girl! ❣️

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Mystic🔮Frequencies's avatar

"Blessed are the forgetful: for they get the better even of their blunders."

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krissy's avatar

I don't have exceptional memory myself, and for that I'm thankful! Lol 😆

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josie's avatar

love this 💕

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krissy's avatar

Thank you for reading, Josie ❣️

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raisa's avatar

Wow this was beautiful! As someone who has also suffered from a brain injury, thrives to be perfect, and falls into cycles of reliving their past trauma - I felt so seen in this piece! Absolutely love your last point about forgiveness. We will never recover and move forward unless we forgive and set ourselves free. Thank you for sharing!

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krissy's avatar

Raisa, your insight means the world. I am so happy you feel seen ❣️

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Jay Miller's avatar

needed this...thank you<3

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Unpacking this in therapy…'s avatar

“Forgiving” is such an expensive word to me.

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Log's avatar

I love this, thank you for sharing!!

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