the man i would tell my daughter to marry

3 qualities that make him husband worthy

The man you marry can either make you feel like a cherished queen or leave you questioning all your life choices. Let’s choose wisely.

Not everyone will tell you the truth about this. Some are too afraid of being politically incorrect, and others simply don’t care about the choices you make. In fact, some might just want company in their own misery. Lucky for you, I have no problem being brutally honest—especially when it comes to something that really matters.

Let’s start off with a banger:

1. He’s a Provider

I will never forget the day my husband told me, “As long as I’m alive, you’ll never need to work.” BYEEE like I will always be working on something, but that is so hot. As women, we crave security. Why do you think wealthy men have historically been the archetype of desirability? Because they can give you an endless supply of Birkins? I would venture to say it’s because wealthy men typically possess the characteristics that make women feel secure. They are the strong, ambitious, and intimidating men that biologically, a vast majority* of women crave. They are the men that will call out rude behavior and return your meal if it wasn’t cooked right. Oh, yes, HOT!

When I say you should marry a provider, I’m not talking about marrying a millionaire. In fact, in that case, I’d advise you to tread carefully. What I mean is, marry a man who provides security in the core areas of life. He’s not Jesus, so he’s not going to meet every need or desire you have. But he should be able to offer you a sense of emotional, financial, and physical security.

There’s a common misconception that men lack emotions, therefore struggle to nurture their family’s emotional well-being. While this may be true for some, a truly masculine man cultivates emotional intelligence. Psychologically, men often convert all negative emotions into anger. So when you encounter an angry man, beneath the surface, he may be a deeply saddened man, burdened by unresolved trauma. A man with a provider’s mindset understands that true leadership begins with emotional healing and maturity. He prioritizes his family’s well-being, knowing that emotional health is the foundation of a strong and thriving home.

2. He’s Strong

Strength goes so much deeper than muscles. Strength is an integral part of a man that fuels his desire to protect and defend his family.

If your man is mentally strong, he will be able to overcome adversity without crumbling. As a woman, we need to have faith in our man that he will remain the rock of the family when storms arise (because they always will). A man rooted in his masculinity will face challenges head on, take accountability for his own mistakes, and move forward through solving the issue at hand.

If your man is physically strong, he will be able to protect and defend. If I am out and about with my husband, I know I am going to be kept safe. Even when he was injured, he prepared other ways he could defend if need be. We don’t have kids yet, but I know I will trust him to take our kids out of the house even more than I would trust myself.

Strength is being able to initiate a conversation to work through conflict.

Strength is defending your family against people will ill-intent.

Strength is leading with love and conviction.

3. He’s Disciplined

Discipline is hot, and let me tell you why. A man who lives a disciplined lifestyle is more likely to be emotionally stable, follow through on his commitments, and continually strive for growth and self-improvement.

A disciplined man is able to control his emotions and desires. In a marriage commitment, you vow to be faithful to each other, to put each other’s needs above your own, and to be with each other until death do you part. These vows all require discipline.

Discipline is required to control his desires around attractive women.

Discipline is required when he’s tired after work but encourages you to go do something for yourself while he cares for the kids.

Discipline is required when marriage is hard but he continues to ask you on dates.

Without growth, a family falls apart. And no, I’m not talking about having more babies to keep things afloat. I mean real growth—the kind that comes from investing in each other. A strong marriage requires quality time. A thriving family needs conflict resolution and intentional togetherness. The best indicator of a family’s growth is the individual growth of its members. That’s why I’d tell my daughter to marry the man who actively works on his emotional, financial, and physical well-being—because a man committed to growth builds a family that flourishes.

What I am NOT saying is that you need a man to make you happy. What I AM saying is that if you do choose to marry, make sure to marry a good one.